Meeting new people can be difficult enough, let alone find those who you truly make a connection with. Whether looking for a casual good first date or hoping for a series of the best dates that might lead to something more, planning the event can make all of the difference.
- Starting Out:
Whether you met through online dating, friends or while out socializing the way in which you ask someone out, or respond to their asking can have an enormous impact on the first feelings that develop between you.
Begin by keeping in mind what you hope to get out of this new acquaintance. Are you hoping for a second date if all goes well? Perhaps you’re just looking for some friendly date conversation? Showing the person through subtle signs where you hope to steer your interaction can help you move in the direction you want and perhaps even cut down on wasted time with those who do not seek the same things you do.
- Meeting Up:
While some tips for dating recommend that you never arrive too early, so as not to seem desperate, it is also important to keep in mind what kind of message you want to send. To arrive late may send a clear signal that you aren’t very concerned with the other person’s feelings and this may not be the way you want to start out.
If you set a time loosely when planning the date you probably have 10-20 minutes of leeway; however if you are planning an activity that is time sensitive, such as dinner reservations or a movie, showing up late may not just be an inconvenience, but an insult.
- The Core:
Letting your date guide you through certain aspects of the date can truly help their level of enjoyment, but it also important that you are having fun. When you are just beginning to get to know someone it can be difficult to know what kind if likes and dislikes will help keep the date fun, comfortable and entertaining. Use whatever information you have available to you and incorporate this into the date if you can. This will show that you pay attention and that you care about showing your date a good time.
When on your date, it is likely that there will be moments where you will feel the chemistry between you and the other person. How fast or slow you hope to progress any physical intimacy may depend on the signals you read from your date as well as your own feelings. Look for flirting body language and casual touches for indications that your date might be receptive to getting a little closer.
Making your time together the perfect date will depend a great deal upon what kind of feeling you each come away from the date with. For this reason it is probably best to keep your conversations fun and interesting. Allow your date to know that though there may be a deeper side of you, you know how to have a good time. Showing physical signs of this is also important as attraction is one of the key elements of a good date. Remember to pay attention to how your flirting body language is read and adjust if you don’t think you’re getting the right message across.
- The Finale:
The way you end the date can truly make or break it and it is important that you send someone you like away with a good feeling. Physical contact is nice if it’s welcome, but be sure to look for any cues your date might be giving you about being receptive, or unreceptive to contact.
Inquiring about future plans at the end of a date can be a great way to tell whether or not the other person had a good time, but you also need to give them the space to consider your time spent together. Remember not to be pushy about making plans so if you do want to ask, keep it light and casual.
Things to watch for:
Nothing can help to create an ideal date situation like two people really hitting it off, but even under the best circumstances there are key actions to watch for that might ruin everything. By looking out for any of these you can help avoid disaster and ensure that you have the best chance of having a great time:
- Food: Sloppy eaters don’t often inspire a great deal of chemistry and whatever your normal eating habits are you may want to watch out for foods that could make you appear less than attractive, especially if you are prone to spills.
- Dancing: Getting close to someone to the rhythm of a good song can be a wonderful aphrodisiac, but if your skills are less than impressive you may want to stick the easier slow songs. A bad sense of rhythm or moves that are received only with laughter may not give your date the hot impression you’re hoping for.
- Talking: Even conversations usually allow both people to feel as though they are sharing and getting to know the other person. By dominating the conversation or allowing the other person to blather on you may do more damage than good. Remember to speak up about yourself and encourage your date to do the same so that you have the best chance of connecting.
- Eye Contact: Lack of eye contact can be taken in about a thousand different and often negative ways so be sure that you keep it up during the conversation or you risk alienating your date.
- Scoping Others: Checking out other people in the room is usually a big no-no on a date. Even if you think you’re being sly it’s probably best just to keep your eyes on the prize and not allow a simple gesture to ruin your chances.
In order to make your date perfect you really just need to remember to relax and have fun while being considerate of the person you’re with. By simply following this guideline you can eliminate so many simple details that are often responsible for turning good dates into awkward times that make it appear as if two people aren’t compatible. You may only get one chance to make a good impression so put a little thought into what you’re going to do and what you might like to get across before heading out to meet the person who may just turn out to be the one you’ve been looking for.
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