For centuries it was expected that women not make the first move in romance and though things have certainly changed on that front many women still keep their body language gestures subtle and at times this may prove to be difficult to read.
Those who have difficulty reading the body language women use in order to communicate signs of interest are often confused by the subtle signs women tend to use. The phrase “mixed signals” is more often applied to women simply because they tend to be less bold than the opposite sex and seemingly create a variety of body language secrets which those interested in them may find impossible to act on.
From Across a Room:
Understanding how to read body language is usually about watching for common signs that indicate a particular way a person is feeling or a signal that they might be trying to send your way. Those looking for tips on dating in this area would do well to remember one important piece of advice: friendly and flirting are not the same thing.
- Facial Expressions: When a woman sends a smile your way this is not necessarily one of the signs of attraction. Watching for a smile and a flushing of the cheeks or a downward glance is a better indication that she finds you attractive than simply watching for a friendly gesture.
Immediately looking away can also be confusing because this could mean that she is embarrassed because you caught her looking at you, or that she just happened to be looking your way and has no interest in getting your attention.
In groups of women it is common enough that once eye contact is made a woman might whisper to a friend or laugh with the other women at the table. This is usually a good sign that she was hoping you would look her way, though still not a lock.
Repeated looks and smiles in your direction often indicate some form of attraction and you can be more certain with each glance that she likes you if those looks are accompanied with a smile a good eye contact.
- Positioning: Most women tend to be far more aware of how their body might look to those they find attractive and may often rearrange themselves for the optimal look from a distance. When a woman has spotted someone that she finds attractive she may turn or adjust her body so that more skin is exposed or the position she is in becomes more flattering from the point of view of the one she hopes to attract.
Another subtlety that women often display might be tracing their fingers over an object or their own body in a way that seems seductive. Though in some cases this type of flirting body language may be accomplished as a general, even subconscious, effort in hope of meeting new people, it may also be used to capture the attention of a specific person in the room.
The removal of clothing can also be an indication that a woman is hoping to attract attention. Though this act might also just simply mean that it’s too hot for a sweater, it is an important signal to watch for when combined with others.
- Maneuvers: Though men are certainly capable of using certain actions to attract others, women tend to use these subtle gestures as a way of forcing contact without seeming to do so. Watching out for traditional moves such as a dropped item or an obvious sign of distress can in some cases be construed as a form of an invitation.
Without any other signals making a move in such a situation might be presumptuous and one needs to proceed with caution; however this may be her way of getting you to initiate a conversation without the embarrassment of either person having to come out and express their romantic interest.
- Online: In this day and age it pays to understand the type of signals that can be used to show attraction on the internet and though the subtlety women so often use may still apply it can help you to determine your next move if read correctly. Watch for the use of emoticons that imply romantic intentions as these often show a woman is feeling flirtatious.
When chatting or exchanging emails with a woman it is important to look for any signals that can help you to make your next move. While flirting online some women may feel more compelled to make bolder statements because they are often in the comfort of their own home; though the message itself may be a little more forward than the woman might be in person this is usually a good sign that she finds you interesting.
Understanding the subtle mysteries of how a woman might look or act toward you when trying to get your attention can increase your chances of gaining a welcome reception and help you to avoid embarrassing rejections. Remember that observation is the key to understanding body language and that a careful eye can catch many different signs of interest.
Volume Two ~ How To Get Closer
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