Almost everyone who has been a t least a few dates knows the pain of being stuck on a date that isn't going terribly well. The problem for most people is how to make good their escape without hurting the other person's feelings. While some of the best dating advice may address these issues briefly, much of the focus is on getting out and not how to get out without raising suspicion.
With some skill and patience the task of getting out of a bad date can usually be accomplished without injuring the other person's pride. Though there are numerous tips and trick for accomplishing this goal, we will focus on three main categories that often have the best success rate.
Remember that having your backup plan set before you head out on your date is usually wise so that you do not have to scramble if things aren’t going well. Though you may not want to focus on the possible negative, you may thank yourself for this planning later.
One of the most popular choices for getting out of a nightmare date is making up a sudden excuse that seems reasonable. Much of the advice for singles recommends this escape plan because it is expected that no one will question or argue with an emergency type of excuse. The problem is that this type of route has been used so often that many people see through it and though they may have the good manners not to say anything at the time, feelings may still get hurt.
To avoid detection in such matters your commitment level must be high and you will need to plan ahead. Though you may not feel great about performing this kind a charade, it will help you exit fairly guilt free.
- Injuries and Illnesses: The largest warning that comes with this type of exit is that your date may insist on driving you to the hospital or at least home. Your injury therefore cannot be too serious, just bad enough to get you out of there. Faking mild food poisoning or an allergic reaction can work well as many people have food allergies that they are not aware of. Blaming a wine or alcoholic beverage for the onset of a terrible headache can also be effective as long as you don't overdo it. The important idea to follow is prep.
When faking an ailment be sure to mention it coming on, then after a time mention that the pain or stress of the ailment is simply making it too hard to continue the date. Always apologize, but do not mention anything about rescheduling. Simply take your exit and leave as swiftly as you can.
- Emergencies: For this escape almost any serious emergency will suffice. A family member is often a better excuse than a friend, but either will do. Rather than using your cell phone for such an event, because this is so often done these days, give your mock emergency caller the name of the place you are going to on your date and have them call you there.
Another possibility is to excuse yourself to make a call in order to check in on something. Whether doing this as parent or a dedicated employee you can then return to your date making apologies for a situation that has come up and needs your immediate attention. Thinking out what your excuse will be prior to the date is often best as you do not want to struggle with explanations at the time.
By using this method you can make a point of turning off your cell phone at the beginning of the date and therefore raising less suspicion later. If the date is going well, you can always take the opportunity to text or call your friend from the bathroom and let them know that their services will not be needed.
- Forgotten Plans: One of the most used up and poorly executed strategies for a bad date exit is the "I just remembered," excuse. It is often transparent and does not usually go over well unless a little ground work is laid. This plan should only be used when it seems to be the only feasible one to follow as it is perhaps one of the least effective. The key to pulling off this exit is bringing up the time or date into the conversation from your date's side.
Steering the conversation to a point that will force your date to make a statement about the time or day of the week can give you an excellent path toward being "suddenly" reminded of a very important task. This can be accompanied by your agitation about having confused times or dates and then making your apologies.
Again, this escape route is not recommended unless you see no other alternative as most people suspect the truth behind the charade. Despite the probability of detection, if you do manage to make it appear as though it was your date's reminder of the time that brought the thought to your attention your likelihood for a subtle escape is much improved.
Another alternative for getting out of a bad date is a rather obvious, but not always terribly attractive strategy: telling the truth. Though this is extremely unappealing for most people telling your date why you believe the date is not going well at the very least informs them about any bad habits or traits that may be preventing them from finding happiness. There is little doubt that at the time you will find a comfortable conclusion using such honesty, but your date just might be grateful for the information later on.
If pursuing a subtle exit strategy there a few ideas you may want to steer clear of that often cause suspicion and hurt feelings:
- Promising that you'll get together again.
- Assuring your date that you like them despite the early exit.
- Offering to call later, or asking your date to give you a call.
- Accepting a ride home, or anywhere else.
- Encouraging any kind of future contact.
- Giving out too much detail about your fraudulent excuse.
- Rushing your exit plan.
- Having a friend call you on your cell to get you out of the date (use location phone.)
- Exaggerating an illness to the point of seeming incapable of driving or getting yourself somewhere safe.
- Using things to say on the cell phone that you believe will make the "emergency" seem more realistic.
- Changing your reason for needing to leave or stumbling over details.
However you choose to plan your escape from a dreadful dating experience following some the most effective dating safety tips, such as choosing a public place for your date, will greatly help you in making your escape. The games that most people are forced to play in courtship, however ridiculous; don't always have to cause hurt feelings. By simply planning your way out of a bad situation before getting into it you have a great chance of making a smooth and easy exit.
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