The first image that is most commonly pictured when trying to embody the word erotic is something to do with sex and while it certainly does have a great deal to do with it, there are many other aspects of sensuality that do not require a sexual experience.
Whether you're a man or a woman the ability to understand your own sensual nature can be of use not just for your sexual experiences, but in understanding yourself as a whole.
The mind, body and possibly soul, depending upon your beliefs, all play a part in awaking your sensual nature; to rely on only one while excluding the other(s) is to minimize the potential awaiting you.
Before you can begin exploring the uncharted waters of mind, body and spirit you must allow yourself to let go of anything which might inhibit this journey. Remember that it's okay to laugh at yourself or a situation, but that you should never feel the need to stop just because you feel silly.
Only continue where and when you feel comfortable and if you come across something that really alarms you, try to figure out what precisely is making you feel badly. In some cases what prevents a person from feeling comfortable with this kind of exploration is a past trauma that needs to be resolved before they can feel confident with their own sensuality.
It is important to remember that making discoveries about your sensual and erotic feelings are for your benefit and while these discoveries may serve you well in situations involving love and lust your focus should not be on another person when still trying to get to know yourself.
Try to keep an open mind and don't shy away from your inner most thoughts and feelings; remember that you're not trying to impress anyone, just figure out a little more about who you are, so relax.
Once you feel relaxed and ready to devote some time to self exploration it's time to find out what you feel about sensuality from a mental perspective. Some questions to get you started:
- What images does the word sensual bring to mind?
- Can you remember the last time you felt sensual?
- What types of environments create an erotic feeling for you?
After taking the time to think over what this idea means to you currently you may find out a great deal more than you expected to. While a feeling of sensuality often has a lot to do with touch and the physical it often begins first in the mind. Sights, sounds and smells all play an enormous part in how you feel. The wrong surrounding can destroy this mood regardless of how interested you in a partner, or simply having fun.
Because most people do not have the ability to change an entire room according to a fantasy that allows them to feel more sensual it is important to know a few tricks you can use to allow that feeling to run freely though you without having to take hours of time to prepare:
- Lighting scented candles can stimulate both the eyes and the nose.
- Lighting in general should be fit to taste; often dim lighting completely changes a person's visual perspective.
- Music that allows you to both relax while allowing you to freely express your sensuality can also be a big help in creating the right setting.
Though a creative mind is not an essential for an erotic or sensual feeling to be complete, there is little doubt that is can help a great deal. Allowing your thoughts to take you on a personal journey through the more secretive parts of your mind may grant you the access you have been feeling you were denied.
It's okay to feel a little silly when trying to conjure up fantasies or arousing ideas in your head. Once again, these thoughts are simply a tool which can help you to relax your natural guard against feeling more deeply.
Allow your body to relax and simply free float through ideas that come to you when focusing on sensuality. Practice this until you find certain ideas, images, situation or fantasies which allow you to openly feel sensual and maintain that feeling.
Though most often practiced for a physical act it may be that you want to allow yourself this feeling long before you hope to engage in a physical activity. By making use of your freely sensual mind you can improve your skills at flirting and have an excellent time building toward the physical as you go.
Many people believe that the soul plays a part in the sensual side because, in theory, it touches a part of the mind and body. If this idea appeals to you, allow yourself to include anything that touches upon the idea that helps to free up your sensual side.
Throughout history many people have found that certain supernatural and mystical elements help to create a strong sensual presence. Don't be afraid to allow your spiritual beliefs to play a part in your journey towards the erotic. Many people believe that to truly achieve the ultimate physical experience with a partner, or soulmate that the essences of both people must connect during the act; again if this interests you allow yourself to explore these ideas.
It is perhaps this area of sensuality where most people become blinded by the idea that stimulation of a certain kind is the only path to satisfaction.
The way in which the body interprets touch can be greatly altered by the state of mind in which a person finds themselves. Some people assume that these changes can only be made by ingesting a dangerous, mind altering substance, this is not the case. Allowing your mind the freedom to alter your perception of the world around you will also allow your body to interpret feeling differently.
This kind of transformation can transform a traditional brush a fabric on your ankle into an experience that stimulates your entire body. Though this kind of feeling often leads to physical interactions such as sex, it is not exclusive to that type of physical action. A sensual feeling may allow you to simply be enthralled with the way a smooth object feels on the back of your hand, or the way a hairbrush tickles as it runs down your scalp.
Each individual will find many different forms of touch that may have previously gone unnoticed and have now been transformed into spots that could easily create an erotic feeling over the entire body. Knowing where and how you like to be touched is an essential for the health of your physical happiness.
Practicing this transformation and understanding how to summon this feeling will can help to improve your life in many ways. Because sensuality touches so many different areas of life the lack of understanding or fear of such a feeling can cause great unhappiness and insecurity.
Allow yourself the freedom of being open to such feelings and find the strength to unite the mind, body and perhaps even soul in your sensual well being.
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