There are many types of men looking for all sorts of different relationships; some only for a night, some for the rest of their lives and some not knowing at all what they want. Understanding men and why they find certain qualities attractive is a great way to adjust your style in dating and broaden the scope of your potential candidates.
Men Through the Ages:
Primitive men had a fairly basic existence, but by no means was life easy. Ages ago men had to fight for every day of their life against nature, wildlife and each other. Choosing a mate, as far as we can tell, would have had far less complications than today, however brutal.
Of the many different areas of the world and the different cultures there were few where romance evolved much from the stone throwers of the past. This was mainly due to the fact that men were for the most part stronger and better at survival, putting them at the top of the food chain. Over centuries of war and conflict, famine and disease, men continued to fight and real love and romance had a slow progression along side of it.
Understanding that this was a large part of the evolution of men may help when trying to determine why so many men struggle with the dynamic or relationships today. To dismiss so many years in what might as well have been another universe is to dismiss instinct entirely, but to understand that this growth mingled with today’s society can be difficult can allow for some wonderful insight.
- Attractiveness: In earlier times men may have been far more attracted to smell than looks, but there is little doubt that for many years now physical appearance is incredibly important to most men. Some might argue that this is because physically attractive is equated with healthy and therefore a better mate. Others might say that what men find physically attractive is purely conditioning and has little to do with primitive desire. Whatever the case may be, trying to stay healthy and look your best is important when attempting to rouse the interest of men in the dating world.
- Nurturing: There are two sides to this coin having to do with support and family. What men love about a woman who is capable of being tender and nurturing is that this quality often escapes them and is welcomed as tender warmth that would otherwise be missing. Those men looking to begin families also greatly desire a mate capable of tending to children and having the care to provide the more typically feminine qualities that they might not otherwise be as capable of providing. This is not to say that there are not men quite able to be nurturing fathers, but instinctually it would seem more of a difficulty to the average man.
- Loyalty: When it comes to being faithful what men want is complete devotion. Instinctually territorial and in fear of not continuing their genetic line most men experience great difficulty with infidelity. Though through the ages most men certainly had little trouble being unfaithful to their own mates, such a thing was considered intolerable not so long ago. When seeking to win a man’s heart it is important that he understand that your loyalty to him is secure.
- Balance: Many men today have mixed feelings about the modern woman. While certainly men in general respect women on the whole, many are still adjusting to the idea that women might not need them. In order to get better in touch with what men like it is vital that you show that you are both capable and willing to compromise. To fain weakness can work on certain men in the short term, but most men do not want a mate who is incapable of taking care of themselves. Likewise, most men do like to feel needed from time to time, perhaps an old instinct left over, or perhaps just a need to be appreciated. In either case, showing a man that you can be both supportive and allow his support is probably the best way to handle this quality in today’s society.
Though it can be difficult to determine what men want in their prospective mates, following some of these basics can usually help uncover more detailed information that will improve your chances for success. Much like women, determining what men love and why can be complex and ever changing. The important thing is to remember that some basic needs for both sexes haven’t changed so very much for thousands of years and must be given some attention or relationships can become difficult.
In order to grant yourself the greatest chance to be attractive to the male element, remember that what guys want fundamentally isn’t so very complex. What creates the complications are the individual personalities of each and every man, which in order to navigate you will need to know well. By following the basics you may have a chance to find the right guy, with all the right details and the potential to be the love of your life.
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