When two people meet for the first time and find each other attractive it can be very exciting. Every look, every word and every touch can be another indication of that longing and desire felt by both people.
Eventually, depending upon the couple, both people will graduate from polite hugs and perhaps kisses, to more intimate forms of passion. Eventually, the results of these desires will more than likely lead to having to the couple having sex.
Once a couple introduces sex into their relationship a great many things begin to change and though this is often a healthy step forward for many people it is important to be aware of such changes before making the decision.
Most couples will experience a honeymoon stage when they first begin having sex and they may find that they are constantly longing to be intimate with each other all hours of the day. This phase often passes within a few months and what remains are the parts of the relationship that had little or nothing to do with the physical.
If at this point the couple's attraction for one another had nearly nothing to do with anything but the physical, they may soon find that breaking it off is the only logical step. Sounds easy enough right? If you connect during the streak of passion great and if not oh well?
The problem with this kind of connection is that it tends to glorify the physical and tarnish the other aspects of the relationship because they are often places in separate categories. When one is seen as the fun aspect of a relationship, while the other the work, it is fairly obvious why so many couples break up. If a long term commitment isn't something that you're looking for this may be the life style for you, but for millions of women this method only makes dating questions that much more complicated.
The real question most women should have answered before they head out on the dating scene is: what are you looking for in a relationship? The answer to this question may help you to determine when introducing sex into a relationship (however casual,) is appropriate for your needs.
If we back up a bit ad take that same couple and extend the time in which they get to know each other by sharing common interests, philosophies and daily lives we may find that two things are greatly changed: The time period in which they share a passionate longing for one another may increase the satisfaction of the honeymoon stage once it is reached; once the honeymoon stage winds down the couple will have their mutual affection and shared lives to turn back to.
Given this formula, which though not absolute is fairly common, it would seem that the most logical approach for women looking for a long term relationship to take would be to make their man wait as long as possible to have sex. While this struggle might make an amusing cartoon, it isn't often practical when a woman meets a man and begins to feel as if she's met her soulmate.
The most practical guide to follow now becomes simply paying attention! Often relationships become tangled in misunderstanding and confusion all of which can lead to breaking up. Introducing sex into your relationship is a very big step, but with a little attention to detail this transition can be an amazing one.
In order to protect yourself from any unpleasant surprises, you may want to discuss any fears or misgivings you’re feeling about having sex with our partner. Many men are eager to head to the bedroom, but they too experience changes that can be frightening when the relationship is altered. You may find that by discussing this with your partner you share many of the same concerns.
Whether the issues you are facing are of the health, emotional or relationship status kind, it is always important to consider your needs and the risks that come with such a decision. Though only you can decide when and if it is an appropriate time to have sex with a person you're interested in, there are a few warning signs that you may want to watch out for before making such an important choice.
If your partner does any of the following, you may want to reconsider your more passionate tendencies towards them:
- Too secretive about where they are when not with you
- Reluctant to speak openly about feelings
- Extremely promiscuous and unsafe about precautions
- Is pushing you to have sex when you are not ready
- Gives you the impression they will break it off if you don't have sex
- Reluctant to show you affection other than physical
- Is inconsiderate of your feelings in general
- Refuses to have a discussion with you about any of your concerns about sex
- Is generally an irresponsible person
- Bullies or is rough with you either physically or mentally
Such an important decision deserves your complete attention. Remember that all of these thoughts, theories and discussions cannot include the feelings and desires that you're experiencing. Remember to be safe, whatever your decision, and to follow the path which will make you happy.
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