One of the most important factors when starting a new relationship is that you leave the person with a good first impression and a true one. Even those not looking for more than a little fun in a casual relationship can highlight their best features and steer clear of the flaws they'd rather not discuss without resorting to deception. Those hoping to build a lasting romantic relationship should especially focus on presenting the most honest, albeit best, version of themselves or may pay the price for it later on.
There are many aspects to a really winning first date and by trying to work on some or all of these you're more likely to be thought of well when meeting singles.
Making a good first impression is a great way to get a chance to make a second one:
- Flattery: Over doing this will seem false and even sleazy, but a few well chosen words on the right subjects can be a very charming way to seem not only thoughtful but perceptive. Knowing when to use the right forms of flattery may not only help you to find a date, but secure a second.
- Interesting: When speaking about yourself try to keep the other person engaged by allowing them to respond to your own statements or inviting their comparisons when the opportunity arises. This can help you to maintain the interest of your date while still allowing them to feel as though you are really opening up.
- Observe: Details can build a great overall impression and if you hope to win someone over committing just a few things to memory can help. The very moment you meet someone you will begin to learn about them and this may include some particular likes and dislikes; make mental notes of some of these so that you can remark on, or show that you listened later.
- Balancing: Letting someone get to know you doesn't mean dominating the conversation, remember that it is important for you to show interest in what makes the other person tick as well as asking questions to prompt them and showing interest when they speak.
- Rounded: If you often find it difficult to have long conversations, you may also want to try engaging in activities with the person you hope to know better and allowing this to give you an idea of what type of person they are, hopefully mixing some conversation into your excursion.
- Focus: If while getting to know a person you may become too distracted you may make a very poor impression, therefore it is necessary that you not only are focused but look it. Many people tend to get fidgety or lose eye contact during discussions and this may cause the other person to think you're not interested to mind your body language when trying to impress.
- Memory: For those that have already gotten a chance to know their dates on some level by being part of an internet dating community, or through friends the initial conversation might not be as difficult to strike up. Those with some knowledge of the person they are spending time with should remember to inquire about certain aspects of that other person's life so that they confirm they were paying attention and cared enough to remember.
Certain events can cause even the most wonderful dates to go badly in a hurry and even those individuals who consider themselves beyond dating help may find that without any warning things take a turn for the worse.
A person's true nature may remain hidden until something is amiss; how you handle yourself in such a situation is may be most revealing:
In order to prepare for the unforeseen it is important to have a few things in order. Obviously, being that predicting and preparing for the unpredictable is rather difficult, the best you can do is prepare yourself for minor (or major) disasters in general:
- Saying the Wrong Thing: Most people slip up now and then and say exactly the wrong thing during a conversation. If this should happen to you, try to remember that mistakes can be turned to your advantage of you show the courage of taking responsibility and the intelligence to explain. In some cases such mistakes may even be thought of as flattering and taken as a sign that you are eager to impress.
- Clumsy: This truly is nothing to be too concerned about, unless that is you really are a walking disaster area, in which case you might want to learn at least to be a bit more observant so that you do not ruin something special before it has a chance to start.
- Spin Things Your Way: Whatever happens on your date it is important to know how to bring the situation back to something pleasant. Knowing how to laugh at your own mistakes, be supportive if your date should make one and general keep your cool under pressure is an impressive set of skills.
Once you and your date are able to maneuver into a more comfortable phase of discussion or activity you may find that knowing what to say or how to handle a disaster comes more easily. In time this level of comfort may allow for more meaningful feelings or perhaps a wonderful shared love of fun.
Remember to be ready for those special moments when they come and to continue showing the person who you are, what you want and why you enjoy their company an effort that in the end may help you to win over their mind, body and heart.
Great Date Guide Volume I ~ Meeting and Greeting
Great Date Guide Volume III ~ To Commit or Not to Commit
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